Tip O' the Day

In effort to help the guilty be... well, less guilty, it's only fair that we provide tips - hints, if you will - on how not to wobble.

My first tip?
If you want to spend time with me, tell me.


(DISCLAIMER: This is fresh on my mind, so I'm not gonna mince words.) Here's the thing: It doesn't do anything for a girl to feel like you could take or leave her. If you want to hang out with her, not just some random female, tell her! I get that it's cute and flirtatious to be aloof and "breezy" (I am currently guilty of working very hard to maintain "breezy".), but chuck that mindset right out the window and be intentional (do it on purpose; not by accident or because someone "happens to..."). I don't want to hear "If you want to..." or "If you happen to be out you could swing by". Don't ask me if I want to, tell me that you want to and I'll be right over. None of this "happen to" or "want to" or "could". Nothing makes a girl feel replaceable like a haphazard ask like that.

This works: "I would love to see you." or "Haven't seen you in a while... I would love to hang out with you." or for goodness sakes, the direct: "I want to see you." wouldn't hurt either. I don't want to go into a situation feeling like it's got nothing to do with me personally, you'd be happy hanging out with any 'ol girl. I want to know that you are interested in who I personally am. Ask to hang out with me because you want to hang out with me, not because you know I'm a good kisser.

So take a hint and be direct. It'll go a long way, I promise.